Whose marriage is stronger –
peers or steam with a big age difference? How many years is required to find out a partner for truly? Which is more important: the regularity of sex or its quality? Answers to all these questions will not help you choose a life partner, but will help to prepare better for marriage. After all, warned – means armed.
Before hiring a wedding manager, take a closer look at your relationship. What of the listed points belongs to you and what is not? 15 facts will help to look at the marriage from a new angle.
1. According to statistics, couples engaged in the age of 23 years are divorced several times less
According to studies conducted at the University of Greensboro in North Carolin, the percentage of stains among couples entering into a marriage at a more conscious age is 30%. And among couples who have married up to 23 years, 60%.
2. After a year of relationships, the attraction is reduced
The honeymoon cannot last forever. This is proved by the research of the University of Pavia in Italy. After a year of life together, the level of hormones is slightly reduced.
3. People can be incompatible in a model of “child-adult”
Let’s go back to the 1960s and look at the three-level model of understanding Eric Bern. Each has three states – “parent” (development), “child” (feelings) and “adult” (knowledge). It is not necessary that there is symmetry, the main thing is that you complement each other in these psychotypes.
4. The happiest marriages between best friends
Marriage leads to an increase in welfare if it is built on mutual understanding and friendship. In such a relationship, we enjoy life.
5. Peers have less chance of divorce
Age differences affect relationships. The larger the age difference between partners, the more often they have friction and disagreements in marriage.
6. One of the conditions of happy relationship is the ability to rejoice
Imagine the situation: the girl comes home after a hard day. She has good news – let’s say she was raised. There are four options for the reaction from her partner:
- “It’s great, dear, you went to this for a long time”.
- The phrase “This is good news” and a smile.
- “So you will now constantly stick out at work?”
- “It’s clear. You won’t believe what happened to me today!”
Think which option will be more acceptable for you.
7. The solution of domestic issues is combined by more than 60% of pairs
One of the decisive factors is the ability to negotiate in household things.
8. A modern person is more demanding on the opposite sex
Psychologist Eli Finkel discovered that marriage in America evolved in this way:
- until 1850 – marriages for food, shelter and protection;
- until 1965 – the desire for comradely relations;
- After the 1970s-the desire for self-realization through relations.
9. You can recognize a person well after 10 years of marriage
You do not know each other as much as you want. Yes, you are aware of what kind of toothpaste your partner uses and what series loves. But the longer you are, the stronger your emotional and intellectual connection.
10. Those couples who lived together before marriage are more successful
The opportunity to live together before marriage-a test drive of future relations. This will allow you to get to know each other better.
eleven. The material dependence of one partner on another destroys the pairs
Recent studies conducted at the University of Connecticut showed that a person who depends on his partner financially does not feel safe.
12. We think that everyone around is cheating, but not our partner
Trust is a strong foundation on which serious relationships are being built. But do not need to go into all the heavy.
13. Gratitude – the key to long -term marriage
If you are grateful to your partner, you can count on a longer relationship.
14. Relations – the path of development
Marriage life is responsibility for each other. You cannot stay in place if you want harmonious relationships. We are all different, with our own ideas about life and differences in the value system.
15. The quality of sex is more important than its amount
One of the studies showed: the main thing is not the amount of sex, but its quality. Heterosexual couples were divided into two groups: for 90 days, half of them adhered to the usual schedule of sexual relations, and the other half increased the amount of sex by half. The research results showed – the second group felt a little less happy than usual.